Just a suggestion. I’m sure you can find people who want to co-parent if you specifically looked for that, if you want to continue to look or if you have a next time. I know 2 gay men who even before the Internet took off, looked for and found that arrangement for example. One of them ended up having kids with one member of a lesbian couple, but this doesn’t need to be done with a lesbian couple. It could be done with a single woman for example.

Especially in the era of social networking, I really think people can be direct and upfront about the main things they’re looking for. If it’s reasonable, it can usually be found.